Tips To Make Swinging A Positive Experience

The first tip is to look at swinging as a way to enhance your already healthy relationship. Swinging will not fix a broken marriage. Although you don't need to be married to be a successful swinger, it is important to be in a healthy relationship with your partner where you know what your partner's emotional and sexual needs and desires are. Communication is critical to swinging. Since swinging requires openness and honesty, it is impossible to swing successfully without open and honest communication.

Before attending your first swing event together as a couple, you may want to discuss what types of things with which you and your partner are or are not comfortable. For example, many swingers do not want to see their partner's having sex with others and prefer closed swinging. Others prefer open swinging where they do witness their partner having sex with other people. Some couples agree to soft swinging, which is when partner swapping is for making out and getting all hot and bothered but actual sex is only had with one's primary partner.

Many swingers find it very helpful to develop secret signals with their partner that communicates certain feelings and desires. The most common subjects of secret communication involve making your interest in another couple known and finding out whether or not your partner is also interested, and letting your partner know when you are uncomfortable and it is time to make a discreet exit.

Your priority should be your primary partner and not just yourself. Remenber that you are a couple. Be aware of how they are feeling and responding, especially if you are new to the lifestyle. Don't get so involved with your own pleasures at your first event that you become unaware of your partner's needs and feelings. If your partner has a negative experience while you are abandoning her/him to seek your own sexual gratification, the event will be a negative memory and you are unlikely to have future swinging opportunities. Be attentive while trying to have a good time.

Never forget that your family always has to be your number one priority. Liberated sex can provide a great high, similar to running. Therefore, it is important to make sure that you do not let this amazing experience take precedence over your family. Make sure you spend considerably more time with your children than at swing events. All things in moderation is the message here.

Another tip is to carry all the safer sex supplies that you might be needing to a swing event. Even is supplies will be supplied, you don't know that your favorite styles and brands will be available. So bring the condoms, latex gloves, and dental dams of your choice with you, as well as your favorite water soluble lubricant. You may also want to bring small pieces of paper for phone numbers, a towel and a washcloth, and anything else you might need.

It is often easier to attend your first swing event if you go with a friend who is already active in the lifestyle. Be courteous to all the new people you meet. You don't have to be an extreme extrovert if that isn't your nature, but swinging events are the places to go to challenge yourself socially and sexually, so take advantage of it. Try being less shy and more bold and see how liberated you feel.

Be careful when you are aroused by someone new not to be pushy or assume that the feelings are mutual. It is good to let the person you know that you are interested. It isn't good to force the subject. In general try to be aware of other people's responses and act accordingly.

Just like any other social group or lifestyle, be careful not get too involved in gossip. Don't believe everything that you hear, and treat rumors with a grain of salt. Try not to get too involved in hurtful scenes or dramas.

Commonly off-premise swing events have a more dressy or formal dress code than on-premise events. This is because at on-premise events many people assume that they will be getting naked at the event. Try to bring a robe to on-premise events so that you don't need to redress immediately after sex. Do not wear any items that might get easily lost, such as earrings. If there is a theme for the event, dress accordingly.

Remember that it is ok to go to a swing event and to not have sex there. Many people go to off-premise events without intending to pick up another couple because it is a great opportunity to safely yet sexually flirt, dance, and get all hot and bothered. Some couples attend on-premise events because they find it very hot to have sex with each other while listening to and watching other people having sex too. Never do anything with which you are uncomfortable and remember you can go slow. Always say no if you don't want to do something. The goal is to be safe and have lots of fun, so take advantage of the opportunity of pleasure without feeling pressure to do what anyone else wants you to do.